The Three Stages of Meditation

Tarot Card Reader, Numerologist & Deccan Chronicle Columnist

Meditation: An Ancient Yogic PracticeMeditation is an ancient practice that is practiced by yogis in India. It refers to state of peace and tranquility that occurs when the mind is calm and silent. In fact, it is said that meditation is a way for nourishing and blossoming the divine within you. Modern scientists have found increasing benefits of meditation including slowing the aging process, improving concentration and even healing cardiovascular diseases.

However, most of us are unable to meditate. The movement we try concentrating or mediating, our mind starts wavering and before long random thoughts cloud our mind. Swami Vivekananda, the chief disciple of Ramakrishna has explained the three stages of meditation that will help you meditate with ease.

To practice meditation, chose a clean and peaceful spot. Sit straight in a comfortable position and start deep inhalation and exhalation. Now you can begin with the first stage of meditation, which is called Dharana…

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Tarot Predictions from March 18 to March 24

Hi everyone, Hope you are doing well!  Here is what Tarot predicts for you this week. I am available for personal Tarot sessions in-person or via skype and FaceTime. Just call 09013486847 to book your personalized Tarot reading session.

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Aries
March 21 to April 20

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Dear Aries, This week, inner strength, stamina, and the will to go on despite impossible odds are emphasized. You are close to completing a particular project or task but at the last minute, you are faced with a new challenge. Arians you have the strength and determination to overcome any challenge or obstacle in your path. You are close to achieving success and victory, do not give up now! The cards encourage you to stand strong and face all challenges head on. You will surely achieve your goal. The challenges before you now are only the last bit of darkness before the dawn.

Lucky Number: 9

Lucky Color: Crimson

 

 

 

Taurus
April 21 to May 21

Tarot_05_Hierophant_TaurusDear Taurean, This week, you may be acting in a rash and pushy manner. You might appear dominating at work or at home. Make sure that you take your time to analyze and do not make any impulsive decisions or indulge in rash behavior. Set realistic goals and do not try to overachieve your ambitions.

Beware of a manipulative person who might try to hamper your professional reputation. It is not a good time for romance as you might meet a coquetry person who might flirt with you and create an emotional havoc in your life. Alternatively, you might indulge in a brief fling or holiday romance.

Lucky Number: 4

Lucky Color: Sunshine Yellow

 

 

Gemini
May 22 to June 21

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Dear Gemini, This week brings with it a very powerful, positive omen. The cards remind us that we have the power to make a difference, in our lives and in the universe if we simply make it a point to take the first step.

This is an excellent time just start working toward whatever that you desire. You have the innate power to manifest all your dreams and desires. If it’s a job you want, or a relationship, or money, or anything else…just take the first step.

You are highly intuitive and will be able to connect with your higher spiritual self.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Golden

 

 

Cancer
June 22 to July 23

Tarot_07_Chariot_CancerDear Cancerian, This week, just remember that everything starts with love. In fact, your life will be full of love, romance, and emotional fulfillment. You will be able to plant the seed of love in your life. The seed may or may not blossom, depending upon how you nurture it. The cards predict the start of a relationship that is full of great potential and may ultimately lead to true love and happiness. Remember that if a relationship starts out well, it is up to you and your partner to nourish it. The cards do not guarantee happiness but guarantee that you will have the chance to create happiness for yourself if you desire.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Orange

 

 

Leo
July 24 to August 23

Tarot_08_Strength_LeoDear Leo, This week, You shall learn an important lesson in life as you realize the benefits of structure and logic ruling over the emotions and lesser desires. Generally, domination of the mind over the heart is deemed incorrect, but in some cases is it necessary and even appreciated. For instance, when difficult decisions must be made it’s important to maintain your concentration and focus and make logical choices. Forge ahead and do what you know is best. If you can master yourself then you should have little problem mastering the world and all the things in it. It is an excellent time professionally as you shall emerge as a leader.

Lucky Number: 4

Lucky Color: Green

 

 

Virgo
August 24 to Sep 23

Tarot_09_Hermit_VirgoDear Virgos, This week the cards advise you to conserve your finances. Don’t even think of investing money this week. Disputes over property are also indicated. If you are in need of money, look for someone, such as a family member, willing to share their wealth with you.

A few Virgos might feel bored and demotivated in life. Be careful as someone close to you might give you wrong advice or push you to take a wrong or unethical route in life.

It is time to use your inner power to heal yourself. Spend some time alone away from people and focus within. Use you gift of intuition and try to align with your inner self.

Lucky Number: 10

Lucky Color: Golden

 

Libra
Sep 24 to Oct 23

Tarot_11_Justice_LibraDear Libra, This week you need to conserve finances. It might be possible that you are awaiting a financial upswing like a pay hike or bonus but it might not come through.

You need to be very careful about what you can and cannot afford. Do not get in over your head and take on a mortgage that requires huge monthly repayments. Do not rely on the promise of a financial opportunity in the future.

Take care of expensive items like jewelry. Also, beware of pickpockets and petty thieves.

It is a good time to plan a new business or a job opportunity. Think clearly and weigh your pros and cons.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Yellow

 

Scorpio
October 24 to November 22

Tarot_13_Death_ScorpioDear Scorpions, This week, it seems that you may be holding yourself back because you fear to move into the future, or because you are wary of getting hurt by a new situation. Free yourself from the bonds of fear and doubt.

You can escape your situation just as quickly as you put yourself into it. No matter how difficult your situation, there are always options and ways to escape. You may not think they are plausible, and you may not even know they exist, but they are there waiting for you to put them to use.

Lucky Number: 8

Lucky Color: Navy Blue

 

 

 

Sagittarius
November 23 to December 21

Tarot_14_Temperance_SagitariusDear Sagittarius, This week you emerge as a strong, powerful and victorious individual. Like Lord Shiva, you possess the wisdom and confidence needed to use the forces of creation and destruction appropriately.  Now is the time to act and accomplish your goals. It is time to change your desires into objectives, your thoughts into actions, and your goals into achievements. If you have recently met with failure, now you can change that failure into success. You experience limitless energy as you have the power to turn stepping stones into success and manifest everything that you desire in life.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Golden

 

 

Capricorn
December 22 to January 20

Tarot_15_Devil_CapricornDear Capricorn, This week you would be reviewing your Return on Investment (ROI), whether it is in terms of money, relationship, hard work or profession. You have reached a juncture in life where you are taking stock of the situation. Is it that you have invested money in a project and you are not sure whether the returns would be profitable? Is it that you are putting your heart and soul in a relationship and are not sure whether your partner loves you in return? Is it that you are working too hard at work but not getting rewarded or appreciated for it? Whatever the situation may be, it is time to learn from the past and rebuild your future in a positive manner.

Lucky Number: 7

Lucky Color: White

 

 

Aquarius
Jan 21 to Feb 19

Tarot_17_Star_AquariusDear Aquarians, This week, it seems that you are not able to manage your work and personal commitments. You are going a little haywire while managing your life. Lady of Tarot suggests you relook at your priorities. Create a TODO list and work in a more organized fashion. Also, please conserve your finances. A penny saved is a penny earned. Avoid going on a shopping spree. Especially avoid buying any electronic equipment, home appliances, mobile phones, etc., until the end of this month.It is also not a good idea to get major changes to your look, such as a new hairstyle, or botox, or plastic surgery.

Lucky Number: 2

Lucky Color: Light Green

 

 

Pisces
Feb 20 to March 20

Tarot_18_Moon_PiscesDear Pisces, This week marks the advent of a man in your life who is strong, forceful and opinionated. He might be a boss at work or a love interest. Make sure that he has favorable intentions toward you as there is a high possibility that he might say things to hurt you or only to malign your reputation. Also, there seems to be a lack of decisiveness in your life. You do not seem to know what you want in life or which path you wish to tread on. It is best to act now and make a few decisions because delays will only worsen your situation.

Lucky Number: 3

Lucky Color: Sunshine Yellow

 

 

 

By Maanya Kohli, Lady of Tarot

First published in Asian Age dated March 18, 2017

Significance of Colors

Hello everyone, Here’s wishing you a happy Holi. On the occasion of this colorful festival, I wish to share with you, my thoughts on the significance of colors in our life.

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Colors hold a significant place in our life, especially in the spiritual progress of an individual. Color is the property possessed by an object to reflect or emit light. For instance, an object looks red because it absorbs everything that white light contains and reflects the color red.

Every color has a specific meaning and significance. However, the meaning of colors varies in accordance with different cultures and circumstances. The color red is vibrant and exuberant. It is the color of energy, passion, action, ambition and determination. It also represents anger and sexual passion.

Orange is the color of social interaction and optimism. It signifies warmth and compassion and is the color of the second or sacral chakra.

Yellow is the color of the mind and intellect. It is a bright, happy, optimistic and cheerful color.

Green is the color of balance and growth. It symbolizes health, fertility, good fortune and abundance.

Blue is the color of trust, peace, and tranquility. It is the color of inclusiveness. Anything that is vast is blue, for example, the sky or the ocean. It is the color of the throat or fifth chakra.

Indigo is the color of intuition and the vast cosmic consciousness. It can mean idealism and structure.

Violet is the color of the imagination and creativity. It symbolizes royalty and nobility. It also represents healing of mind and body.

White is the symbol of purity, innocence, wholeness and completion. White is not really a color. When there is no color, only white is there. It is the absence of color that makes it white. At the same time, white is all-inclusive because white light contains all the seven colors of the rainbow.

Black is the color of mystery and the unknown. Unlike other colors, black does not emit anything, it absorbs everything.

Colors can help us heal and also alleviate ourselves on the spiritual plane. Those people who follow the ascetic path wish to attain Vairagya, which literally means transparent or beyond color. My dear readers, I wish that wherever you are, you become a part of that surrounding, but you don’t get attached to it. Verily then you will be able to explore all dimensions and colors of life and attain the ultimate purpose of life, that is Vairagya.

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By Maanya Kohli, Lady of Tarot

First published in Asian Age dated March 11, 2017

Tarot Predictions for March 11 to March 17, 2017

Hi everyone, Hope you are doing well!  Here is what Tarot predicts for you this week. I am available for personal Tarot sessions in-person or via skype and FaceTime. Just call 09013486847 to book your personalized Tarot reading session.

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Aries
March 21 to April 20

Tarot_04_Emperor_AriesDear Aries, This week is filled with peace, friendship, commitment, and domestic bliss. Your social life will be scintillating. You will have excellent opportunities for group activities, parties, and picnics and have fun times with loved ones. You will experience serenity and peace in the company of friends and family. It is an excellent time for love. Single Arians might get into a committed relationship and couples might decide to get married or have children.It is an auspicious time when you receive blessings from the high heavens. Anything you start during this week will augur well.

Lucky Number: 10

Lucky Color: Orange

Taurus
April 21 to May 21

Tarot_05_Hierophant_TaurusDear Taurean, This week, you shall feel a burdened by work or by a responsibility. It might also be the case that someone is trying to control you or your life and you almost feel shackled. Look around you, is it your boss or your parents who are trying to control you. Analyze if tis burden or control good for you.

Responsibility is a great character-builder, and by bearing physical burdens you often find that emotional burdens will disappear. However, you also need to understand when is time to get out from under your burdens or delegate responsibility onto others.

Lucky Number: 10

Lucky Color: Sunshine Yellow

Gemini
May 22 to June 21

Tarot_06_Lovers_GeminiDear Gemini, This week the cards predict marriage or stability in a relationship. Yes, it is time to tie the knot. If you are not seeking a personal union, then you might unite with someone on the professional front. It is a great time to strike a deal, sign a contract or enter a business partnership.

The cards also show that you are not in control of your life. Free yourself from whatever restrictions are holding you back, at any time you choose to. Take a good long look at yourself and surge forward with fortitude

Lucky Number: 15

Lucky Color: Light Blue

Cancer
June 22 to July 23

Tarot_07_Chariot_CancerDear Cancerian, This week, the cards focus on love! You will spend quality time with your beloved and life will be full of love and laughter! In case you are in a long term relationship, you can expect a period of renewal and a re-awakening of passion.

You may need to cooperate and negotiate with others. Working as a team may further your endeavors. Professionally, you may establish a new partnership. On a spiritual level, you are emotionally balanced. The masculine and feminine parts of your self are in equilibrium. You can also focus on developing your intuition.

Lucky Number: 2

Lucky Color: Cream

Leo
July 24 to August 23

Tarot_08_Strength_LeoDear Leo, This week is all about planning and progressing. You have  worked hard in the past few weeks. Now is the time when success is awaited. If it is a promotion or appraisal at work it will happen soon. If you are awaiting to win a contract, rest assured it is yours!

The cards  show that you need to be patient. You have got the ball rolling and have started out on your journey, so now it is time to patiently wait for your rewards and watch as your ideas begin to materialize.

Step outside of your comfort zone and explore new worlds and new experiences.

Lucky Number: 2

Lucky Color: Green

Virgo
August 24 to Sep 23

Tarot_09_Hermit_VirgoDear Virgos, This week brings with it celebration. It could be the success of a professional venture or a new friendship or personal relationship. Marriage is also on the cards for an eligible Virgos. you can achieve greater success than you expect. The cards predict celebration. Eligible This week will bring fulfillment of a long-awaited ambition. If you have been working on a project, you will reach an important milestone and will have cause to celebrate. However, remember to keep working hard and not just rest on your laurels.

Buy a new house or car. A few Virgos might even decide to renovate their homes.

Lucky Number:4

Lucky Color: All shades of Blue

Libra
Sep 24 to Oct 23

Tarot_11_Justice_LibraDear Libra, This week you will act as a leader, full of fire and energy!  You will look forward to challenges and enjoy the adrenaline rush in your veins. It seems that you have a new vision, a goal. You are fearless and are able to empower and support people around you.

There is a good chance that you will join a charity or a support group and pursue the cause actively. Try and control your temper this week and avoid unnecessary arguments.

You will experience an inner change on the spiritual plane. Meditation will help you communicate with your higher self and seek answers within.

Good Color: White

Good Number: 1

Scorpio
October 24 to November 22

Tarot_13_Death_ScorpioDear Scorpions, This week you will experience success after initial challenges, specially at work. Enjoy this time of stability and security. It is a good time to work as a team or engage in a partnership which will be mutually beneficial for both parties involved.

The cards also advise you to embrace change and adopt a longer-term view of the situation.

This is an opportune time to take this leap of faith. Believe in yourself. Do not let failure set you back, learn from your mistakes and seize victory from the jaws of defeat.

Lucky Number: 3

Lucky Color: Powder Pink

Sagittarius
November 23 to December 21

Tarot_14_Temperance_SagitariusDear Sagittarius, This week, signifies a time of change and transition. The cards indicate that you are despondent and are walking away from your near and dear ones. It could be a disappointment in love or dissatisfaction with finances.

This is a time to achieve a higher purpose in life and pursue more meaningful goals. You need to make physical sacrifices in order to tread the path for spiritual progress. It is time to search for higher truth because the mundane is no longer sufficient to satiate your soul. Travel away from home is also indicated for a few Sagittarius.

Lucky Color: Yellow

Lucky number: 8

Capricorn
December 22 to January 20

Tarot_15_Devil_CapricornDear Capricorn, This week is a mentor or guru might also enter your life.This mentor could be of a  spiritual or mystical background; or may even be an employer training you a new skill set at work. In fact, even life can teach you a few important lessons, if you keep an open mind. If your current situation seems to require more experience then you can call upon, be open to the presence of a teacher or mentor in your life. It is not a good time to think  ‘out of the box’ and start something innovative. It is best to follow the traditional way of doing things.

Lucky Number: 5

Lucky Color: Turquoise

Aquarius
Jan 21 to Feb 19

Tarot_17_Star_AquariusDear Aquarians, This week the cards tells you that you have reached a significant stage in your own journey. You have assimilated past experiences and learned from them. You are now in a position to place the past behind you. Your memories no longer taunt you, you are able to value what has happened to you and what it has taught you. There will be a gentle breakthrough in your life. The cards also indicate an inner awakening, the beginnings of a new way of living and experiencing the world. Something which was lying dormant within us, some unconscious knowledge or truth is finally being awakened and brought into the light.

Health will improve.

Lucky Number: 20

Lucky Color: White

Pisces
Feb 20 to March 20

Tarot_18_Moon_PiscesDear Pisces, This week you are calm, composed and tranquil. You exude a quite composure and are able to achieve inner balance. Friends and family seek your counsel or take your help in resolving conflicts.Professionally, you will be working along with a team to achieve success. In case you are at loggerheads with someone, it is best to find a middle ground and solve your contention.This is the time when you feel healthy and fit. You shall recover from past illness, if any. Start a fitness regime and kickstart your journey to be strong and healthy. Stay away from addictions and kick old habits.

Lucky Number: 14
Lucky Color: Pearl Grey

Tarot Predictions by Maanya Kohli, Lady of Tarot (Ph: +919013486847)

First published in Asian Age dated March 11, 2017

Tarot Predictions for March 4 to March 10, 2017

Hello my lovelies, Check out your Tarot Predictions for This week. You may call Lady of Tarot @+919013486847 to book your personal Tarot session. I offer Tarot readings in person or via Skype, FaceTime, or phone.lady-of-tarot

 

Aries
March 21 to April 20

Tarot_04_Emperor_AriesDear Aries, This week, time when you might just have to commence your journey. Recognizing when it is time to move on, away from difficult times, is the primary theme this week. Look around you…are there any relationships where you are giving too much and not getting nearly enough in return. Analyze your current situation and see what can be done to balance things out a little.

You want to escape from the ‘rat race’ and pursue deeper, more profound ambitious at this time. You are willing to let go of your possessions in order to achieve something more substantial.  A few Arians might start of a journey of discovery, particularly on a spiritual level.
Lucky Color: Yellow
Lucky number: 8

 

 

Taurus
April 21 to May 21

Tarot_05_Hierophant_TaurusDear Taurean, This week the cards show problems at work. You may have a conflict of interest with your boss as he or she might not be open to your path-breaking idea. You might feel restricted and stifled at work. The cards urge you to stand up to authority and let your superiors know that you do not always have to work in the most traditional way.Those Taureans who are in a relationship might feel that they are not getting what they expect from their partner. Your partner might be behaving in an overbearing and authoritative manner. It is better that you share your feelings and expectations with your partner as it might strain your relationship.

Lucky Number: 4

Lucky Color: Green

 

 

Gemini
May 22 to June 21

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Dear Gemini, The cards indicate a difficult experience of loss and ending. The difficulty and pain will soon be over and will evolve into something new. As with all endings there will be a new beginning.

Most importantly stop acting as the victim, and expect pity from others. Let go of feelings of betrayal. It is darkest before the dawn, and as gloomy as it looks, the sun will rise again. It can only get better from here.

Accept your current circumstances. Do not resist change but allow it to happen, even if it causes some initial pain and hurt to you.

Lucky Number:10

Lucky Color: Sunshine Yellow

 

 

Cancer
June 22 to July 23

Tarot_07_Chariot_CancerDear Cancerian, This week, it seems that you may be holding yourself back because you fear moving into the future, or because you are wary of getting hurt by a new situation. Free yourself from the bonds of fear and doubt.

You can escape your situation just as quickly as you put yourself into it. No matter how difficult your situation, there are always options and ways to escape. You may not think they are plausible, and you may not even know they exist, but they are there waiting for you to put them to use.

Lucky Number: 8

Lucky Color: Navy Blue

 

 

 

Leo
July 24 to August 23

Tarot_08_Strength_LeoDear Leo, You have recently experienced a time of self-deception and delusion but these negative energies are beginning to subside. Let go of your mental blocks or negative self-talk, and allow your intuition to guide you. You may be blocking messages coming from your higher-self, however, you are using logic instead of intuition to resolve your problems. Fear of the unknown and what lies ahead for you may be preventing progress or forward momentum. Look at the stars in the night sky to guide you out of this time and renew your faith in life. Hidden things may come to light. A lost item may re-surface and will be found.

Lucky Number: 18

Lucky Color: Ruby Red

 

 

 

Virgo
Tarot_09_Hermit_VirgoAugust 24 to Sep 23

Dear Virgos, This week something is not as it appears to be, and that vigilance is necessary to find that which is hidden before it is too late.

You may be idealizing the situation, and ignoring the fact that potential for failure exists among success. Things are not nearly as bad as they seem. In both cases you must open your eyes and see what it really going on.

Lady of Tarot suggests you let your intuition guide you. Not only will the way forward be revealed, but in a lot of cases you will learn lessons about yourself that will be valuable in later journeys.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Pink

 

Libra
Sep 24 to Oct 23

Tarot_11_Justice_LibraDear Libra, This week you have a sense of achievement. Ensure that you are very clear and specific about your goals and plans. Know what your part is in bringing them about. If you aren’t sure what you need to do next, ask for advice from someone you trust. Think positively.

If you are looking for work, you must be methodical and disciplined. If you do so, a good job or project may come your way.

If you are looking for love, you can’t just expect to be swept off your feet. You need to work hard for your relationship to work. It is best to be open to your beloved or prospective partner.

Lucky Number: 9

Lucky Color: Crimson

 

 

Scorpio
October 24 to November 22

Tarot_13_Death_ScorpioDear Scorpions, This week, signifies a time of change and transition. The cards indicate that you are disappointed and are walking away from your near and dear ones. It could be a disappointment in love or dissatisfaction with finances.

Scorpios in a relationship might be feeling that they are giving too much and not getting nearly enough in exchange. It is best to talk to your beloved and communicate your feelings clearly.

This is a time to achieve a higher purpose in life and pursue more meaningful goals.

Travel away from home is also indicated by the cards.

Lucky Color: Yellow

Lucky number: 8

 

Sagittarius
November 23 to December 21

Tarot_14_Temperance_SagitariusDear Sagittarius, This Week, you are feeling incredibly inspired and enthusiastic about pursuing a new idea or project that you have in mind.  Use your creative energy and passion to take the first steps and get this project underway.

The cards are also indicative of a time in your life where you have an epiphany and feel very inspired and motivated about a particular idea or passion. Your eyes have been opened to a whole new world and you are now very excited about the possibilities and the opportunities that are available to you.  It’s also a good time to build new relationships.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: Fiery Red

 

 

Capricorn
December 22 to January 20

Tarot_15_Devil_CapricornDear Capricorn, This week the cards indicate opportunities to expand your horizons, through study, travel, business enterprise and learning. You need to become more aware of the opportunities that exist for you right now as there may be more than you are aware of.

The cards also advise you to embrace change and adopt a longer-term view.

Travel is also on the cards this week! You might visit a far-away land where you will then have the opportunity to fully develop yourself and learn many new things. Capris you are generally cautious and careful but now is the time to take the leap of faith!

Lucky Number: 3

Lucky Color: Violet

 

Aquarius
Jan 21 to Feb 19

Tarot_17_Star_AquariusDear Aquarians, This week marks the beginning of all good things, especially at an emotional level. Lady of Tarot sees joy, love, harmony, beauty, good health and a new spiritual understanding.

It is a good time to go for a makeover or change your looks. So run to a salon, or buy your favorite outfit. Time is also good to buy diamonds, for either investment or jewelry.

Love will also come knocking at your door. Good time to get engaged, married or plan a baby.

There is a general feeling of merriment and celebration.

Lucky Number: 1

Lucky Color: White

 

Pisces
Feb 20 to March 20

Tarot_18_Moon_PiscesDear Pisces, This week you shall celebrate a glorious accomplishment. There is victory and triumph on the cards. You will be able to successfully achieve a project close to your heart. At work, you might get a promotion or win an important deal. It is also possible that you may win an award. Students will pass their examinations with flying colors. Pisces in love can expect a happy week as their beloved will put them on a pedestal and treat them like royalty. Single Pisces might get into a relationship with someone whom they have been dreaming about.

Spiritually, you will be in touch with inner bliss and also share it with the world.

Lucky Number: 6

Lucky Color: Dark Green

 

First published in Asian Age dated March 4, 2017.

Friendship is the Foundation of Marriage

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A marriage gets sweeter and stronger when the partners are friends forever. This week has been a rollercoaster emotional ride for me. My baby sister, who has grown up in front of me and has been my companion and confidante, is getting married today. I am elated to share that she has found a friend in her husband. As per hindu scriptures,  marriage is a sacred relationship that unites two people, so that they can pursue dharma (duty), artha (possessions), kaama (desires), and moksha (salvation). However, in my humble opinion the foundation stone of marriage is friendship.

Friedrich Nietzsche, the existentialist philosopher opined, “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” It is extremely important for the husband and wife to be good friends. Though the western world has started to realize the importance of friendship in a marriage recently, but this concept was always known to ancient Indians. It has been mentioned in the great epic, Mahabharata. During the exile of the Pandavas, King Yudhishtira encountered Yaksha, who had killed his brothers. He asks Yudhistra hundred and twenty questions. The Yaksha promised to bring his brothers back to life if he answers them correctly. One of the questions the Yaksha asked Yudhishtira was “kimsvin mitremphasiam grihesatah?”, which means who is the friend of a householder? Yudhishthir  answered”, the friend of a householder is his spouse.

Hindu marriage rituals, further emphasize the role of friendship in a marriage. When the bride and the groom take seven rounds of the holy fire, they pledge eternal friendship to each other. They chant:

“sakhaa sapta padi bhava

sakhyam te gameyam

sakhyam te mayoshah

sakhyam te mayoshtah”

“With these seven steps you have become my friend. May I deserve your friendship. May my friendship make me one with you. May your friendship make you one with me.”

My dear readers, I hope that you find a friend in your spouse. It is said that, Friendship in marriage is the spark that lights an everlasting flame. I hope that you and your spouse are able to kindle this flame for evermore.

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First published in Asian Age dated March 4, 2017